Take your parent/child relationship from
power struggle to empowered!
Are you a highly capable, super smart parent who dislikes the person you become…
when you talk to your kids about homework and grades? Is it filling you full of doubts about your ability to parent at all?
Are you struggling to communicate to your kids the importance of academic success?
Is exhaustion from trying everything you can think of with no results making you feel like giving up?
Do these sound familiar?
- Your child is falling behind in their assignments and tanking their GPA.
- Constant arguments and struggles over homework and grades are turning you into an irritable grump.
- Your kids are refusing to talk to you about homework and grades and refusing your help.
- Removing privileges accomplishes nothing but making you feel like an overbearing jerk.
- You worry because the tools and strategies that work for you are not helping your child become an academically successful kid.
- There’s a part of you that fears you might actually be ruining your relationship with your child trying to get things on track.
What if
it didn’t have to be this way?
With a few simple changes…
- You can experience peaceful evenings with your child.
- You can talk to your child in a way that allows them to accept your help and doesn’t end in a fight.
- You can move into a support role for your child’s gifts and talents so that you are positioned to help them succeed.
- Your child will see you as the one person in the world, who they know without a doubt, has their back.
- You can confidently parent them through this and learn to lead them toward creating a wildly successful life.
- You can safely move them toward self-management, reclaim your energy, and have time to relax.
Remember what it was like…
before you started having these battles over homework and grades?
Remember how connected to them you felt?
How you felt they had endless possibilites for success in their lives?
What if you could rebuild trust in those dreams and that relationship and reconnect stronger than ever with your child?
Your daily life would be free of the dread you feel when you check in on their homework. You would be able to see all the wonderful gifts and talents your child actually has and be their biggest fan. You would have a peaceful, calm, enjoyable relationship with your child. Your child will want to spend time with you instead of retreating to their room. You could finally relax, enjoy spending time with your child…knowing your child is on track and they’ve got this. You’d have the energy to enjoy your life and family and focus on your own path as well.
Hi there, I’m Paula.
A compulsive Straight-A-Student who managed to produce not one, but three kids who could not get their homework done, and whose less than stellar grades drove me nuts. Maybe this sounds a little dramatic but I actually lived in mortal fear of their prospects.
In short, I became the power struggle queen.
I tried everything to turn this around; organizers, schedules, withdrawing privileges, special books, sitting with them every night through every subject. You name it, I tried it, and none of it worked.
Even worse, I didn’t like who I was becoming in my attempts to mold my children into little mini-me’s. It felt awful. I was ashamed that I couldn’t figure out what to do or how to fix it, so I’d dig in more, and like myself less and less. Worse than all of that, I began to resent my kids for “making me” have to take on behaviors that were really against my nature.
Until one day, after a particularly interesting battle with my daughter, I was sitting on her bed and had an epiphany. Somehow, I became aware of why none of what I’d been doing worked. I’d been focusing all my attention on a symptom and never at all had actually addressed the problem. This understanding led me to use a completely different way of relating to my kids.
The first thing that dropped were the power struggles, then my relationship with my kids started to shift and change. They began to trust me and we got closer than we’d been in years as my kids began to build their own path toward success.
Out of this experience I became passionate to help other parents, and created my Loving Effectively formula. Now I take parents on the same journey.
Wanna see for yourself?
Get my “3 Mistakes Parents Make Helping with Homework”. It’s an immersion into the counter-intuitive reasons why that big brain of yours can’t fix this (and it’s totally free).
In the meantime,
I’m really happy you’re here.
I look forward to taking you deeper than you’ve ever gone to become the leader your child needs.
“When you change how you think about your child…you change the way your child thinks.”